birth educator and author

Birth With Confidence

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In many countries around the world, including Australia, intervention rates are well above those recommended by the World Health Organisation and climbing. In Birth with Confidence, I explain why physiological birth is almost impossible in our current birth culture—and what you can do to beat the odds.

Birth With Confidence will:

  • Outline the benefits for mothers and babies of physiological birth
  • Help you understand how our current birth culture can undermine your intentions for physiological birth
  • Explain how the various ‘circles of influence’ around you — from your friends and family to the wider culture — can support or sabotage your birthing potential
  • Help you identify your own attitude to pain — your ‘pain type’ — and what it will mean for your birth
  • Provide practical and emotional steps you can take to raise your pain tolerance level
  • Give you a framework for deciding on the best caregivers and support people to help you work through any ‘crisis of confidence’ during labour.
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Reader feedback
'Rhea Dempsey is a wise woman who everyone I know refers to everyone else I know … I know all the time. She is a keeper of secrets and a polisher of treasures. She is a fierce supporter of things that actually matter: like women and their experience when giving birth, and men and their experience of bonding with their children. These are just two of the things that make her a true treasure, and we are so lucky she’s written some of her wisdom down in this book.’
Clare BowditchMusician and mother
‘If you are pregnant or considering getting pregnant, this book is a must read.'
Pinky McKayAuthor of Parenting by Heart, Sleeping Like a Baby and 100 Ways to Calm the Crying
'During my twenty years of involvement in childbirth activism and research, many women have asked me ‘how can I have a good birth?’ I have wanted just this book—Rhea’s wise answers—to give them. Now we have it'
Dr Kerreen ReigerSchool of Social Sciences La Trobe University and author of Our Bodies Our Babies
'Ever since I encountered first-hand the power and the clarity of Rhea Dempsey's vision of childbirth, I have been hoping Rhea would write a book. I have no doubt [it] will become an instant classic—for women about to give birth, for their partners, and for childbirth professionals across Australia and beyond'
Maria TumarkinAuthor Axiomatic, Otherland and Traumascapes
'Make this one of your staples for your pregnancy – no matter where you live in the world. Get your hands on it!'
Kelly WinderBelly Belly
'Just finished reading Birth With Confidence by Rhea Dempsey. Fantastic book! It really encourages women to explore and reflect on what they want and provides guidance about how to navigate the ‘maternity system’ and the birthing process. This is the information mothers need… holistic and woman-centred rather than the usual manuals on the ‘stages’ of labour and how to be a good girl in hospital. If you are looking for a present for a pregnant woman…'
Dr Rachel ReedAuthor of Why Induction Matters
'A fantastic reference for anyone starting on the journey towards motherhood who wants a normal physiological birth but is confused by the options available to her or intimidated by the thought of pain in childbirth.'
Kabita DharaBooks+Publishing
'Many women who have attended Rhea Dempsey’s birth workshops will whoop with delight knowing that a book full of her birthing wisdom is now available.'
Erin Horsley‘Birth Matters’ – Journal of Maternity Coalition
'Covers many issues that the average woman usually doesn’t even contemplate until she is already pregnant and “in the system”.'
Melinda EalesMidwife
'Now we have something to actually hand to our women who have goals and dreams for their births.'
SophieMidwife
‘Rhea, I read Birth With Confidence three years ago, prior to the birth of my son. It was by far the most useful and realistic book that I had read as part of my preparations and I truly believe that the concepts that you conveyed made a huge contribution to the achievement of the natural birth that I wanted. Thank you for writing such a wonderful book, which truly resonated with me.’
KateMother
‘Rhea, I just wanted to let you know that we gave birth to a beautiful baby boy … I had an amazing labour and birth experience and am still buzzing about it. And I am very thankful for all the great words of wisdom from your book ‘Birth with Confidence’. I laboured at home with my two-year-old toddler and when the time came I got to birth at our local birthing unit in the birthing bath all by maternal effort—I felt/feel very empowered.’
AbbieMother
‘Rhea brings more than three decades of birthing support and wisdom, sharing tools and perspectives that will help expectant women to navigate self-doubt and set up solid support systems for a confident birth. (I loved Rhea’s workshops too, as a pregnant mama!) Birth with Confidence is honest, empowering, and illuminating. Highly recommended.’
Dr Sarah BuckleyAuthor of Gentle Birth, Gentle Mothering
‘Rhea Dempsey’s dynamic and profound book, Birth with Confidence, has stimulated a lot of our thinking around how we engage with women and their supporters in preparation for labour and birth. We thank her for her inspiring work.'
Nicky Leap and Billie HunterProfessors of Midwifery and authors of Supporting Women for Labour and Birth: A thoughtful guide
‘Your brilliant book Birth with Confidence … is truly one of my favourite birth books that I refer to often in many of my papers and in working with women and feel it is an essential read for all pregnant women, their partners and support people.’
MelindaStudent midwife
‘Rhea’s book is the book I wish I’d had before my first baby—it puts words to the gut feelings I have about birth. This book is a game-changer for us women who are neither hippies nor radicals, but simply wish to have a go at normal birth because we know there is a more richly rewarding way for both mothers and babies.’
Leigh RussellLeadership coach and co-author of Game On!: Supercharge Your Career and Build the Life you Want

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Our emotional patterns – the habituated stress responses that we have developed from infancy, through childhood and into our adult lives – can have huge impacts on labour. (As you can guess, they also have a big impact on our parenting.)

In Beyond the Birth Plan I invite you to explore how your ‘fight’, ‘flight’, ‘freeze’ and ‘fawn’ responses and your unique style of attachment in relationships may play out. 

I share stories drawn from the hundreds of women I have supported in birth, to illustrate how many impactful life experiences, such as loss, grief and abuse, can influence pregnancy, labour and birth.

So, if you’re ready for the next step in your birth preparation, join me to go deeper.

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